Grief for the dead is a pain that proves we are human | Daily Mail Online

My experience is that the first year is always chaotic; a roller-coaster of emotions with denial, anger and depression arriving randomly and sometimes all at once as you try to deal with the new reality and face the dreaded Firsts: the First Christmas, the First birthday; the First anniversary.

The second year is bleaker still; no one outside those immediately affected is still grieving, depression has made itself at home as you realise no heavenly messenger is going to turn up and tell you it was all a terrible mistake and turn the clock back.What I say to the many bereaved men and women I meet (and due to my personal history I am in touch with quite a few) is that, as this week’s Sue Ryder survey suggests, a corner will be turned after the first two years but that will not be the end of it.Our forebears would have been baffled by the idea of filling out surveys to find out how long the pain of grief is supposed to last.

Source: Grief for the dead is a pain that proves we are human | Daily Mail Online

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