True silence is the rest of the mind; it is to the spirit what sleep is to the body, nourishment and refreshment. Sir William Penn | THE OLD PROVERBIAL RECOVERY

Suffer the mad world to go its own way, for it wills to go its own way. After all, the attainment of the summum bonum is not so difficult as is generally supposed. The first thing is not to be too eager in the pursuit of it ; not to make, as one may say, a trade of it; for it is certainly true, that he who seeks his content most will find it least. The way is to take things as they happen to turn up, easy, without too much anxiety about consequences. The present mode of life is much too artificial, has too many factitious passions — too much ambition, pride, and emulation, which keep men in a constant state of excite- ment and exertion. Follow nature : rest when you are weary, eat when you are hungry , drink when you are thirsty. Pursue what is most congenial to your inclinations and abilities. If you are only fit for solitude, seek not active life, and vice versd. No man all things can do.

Source: True silence is the rest of the mind; it is to the spirit what sleep is to the body, nourishment and refreshment. Sir William Penn | THE OLD PROVERBIAL RECOVERY

On Prayer and Chronic Illness, Sober | The Fix

The artifice of returned choice and ability so quickly reinstated my ego to its helm that I nearly missed the lesson—that self-forgetting, acceptance and allowance facilitated beneficial outcomes while my involvement netted none. The practice of prayer remains active as I navigate this disease in a new environment, and has afforded a level of grace previously unknown. The facts are unfavorable and yet, recognition of the role of God as capable of equipping my navigation of them has entirely resurfaced a landscape that otherwise would be impassable from the outset.

Source: On Prayer and Chronic Illness, Sober | The Fix


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A classic country show day and I was able to do it.

Tired now. Let the images speak for me. 

Its the end of the 2nd April since the world blew apart. The children laughed and we ate well and I drove some more. I have been going to the Bellingen Show since the early 1970s – on and off. Good Night, Eden and North Bello. See you soon.



Today – I had a nice day. I got a new washing machine ( well new in its own way ) and I made a decision about something big – POSTPONE . Then I went a visiting at my Kids’ house where we ate ice cream and then I drove home – YES DROVE A CAR AGAIN. Now I am going to bed early because The SHOW is on tomorrow. Also I have lost 12kgs since November. From my body. Not 12 kgs of drugs. 12 kgs of fatness.




Just briefly. On a sunshining day . Touch of Autumn and odds and ends to do. I sat down and realised that I am plumb tuckered out. Resources are depleted.

My Kids are coming down to fetch me. And bring me a new and smaller washing machine so there goes another piece of Izzy and my Lives. We got the old machine I have here after the Ulmarra floods. She is a thrasher.

I am seeing the Doc this afternoon. Her request – not mine. I might even stay overnight at my daughter’s so that I can go to the Show tomorrow and see my Granddaughter sing. I might.

But I am plain tuckered out. This heartbreak is shattering experience. I just want to sit awhile. Like Donna D said about her father Jock. He took 2 years to come good and it were the fishing out on the rock wall that did it.

Remove an old tree and it will wither to death. | THE OLD PROVERBIAL RECOVERY

T.S. Eliot (1888–1965).  The Waste Land.  1922.And the dead tree gives no shelter, the cricket no relief, And the dry stone no sound of water. Only There is shadow under this red rock, (Come in under the shadow of this red rock), And I will show you something different from either Your shadow at morning striding behind you Or your shadow at evening rising to meet you; I will show you fear in a handful of dust.

Source: Remove an old tree and it will wither to death. | THE OLD PROVERBIAL RECOVERY



I LIKE the era we seem to be moving into better than I have liked the self-centred , wishy washy, polite, “inspirational” era that I hope we are moving out of. I was not designed for it.

The articles I have been finding have more depth, more guts than what I have been seeing for a decade or more.

I have felt the pressure internally and externally to BE INSPIRING. To find a way through this. I don’t even like the ” LIFE IS A JOURNEY “. shit. Maybe it isn’t. Maybe there is nothing inspirational to be found in this time of my life. Maybe its just a Bummer.

I have definitely felt the pressure to ” cheer up “. To move on to the “next stage”. To “handle” things.

I think of Him. I think of ME – the ME that was. I think of money and hatred and distress.

Many days  I simply go through them. Sleep as much as I can.

Many days – I know that whether or not I survive this is not yet decided.

ENVY flies through me and Rage. I try to pay attention to the small good things – just so that I can stay sane . Its like early Recovery in the late 80s was. A tight discipline on the mind to prevent raving madness.  This time I am not in a Mental Hospital – but I am close. I surely have been in hospital a few times.

I don’t know what you say about times like these. I do know that the placatory rubbish does not work.  Some days I still almost vomit. Some days I can see him lying there on the road. Gone.

And other times, the sheer horror of being alone out at Raleigh and vomiting blood for hour after hour till ringing 000 seemed like the only thing I could do and I did. I didn’t even know I was as sick as I was.  And then hearing a doctor say – you have 12 1/2 minutes of life left.  Then waking up and finding out that weeks had passed. Tubes and needles and thins all over me.

It seems like so much has gone bad since June 21 2014, that the pit is bottomless.

I have been a little surprised at how much is expected of the one remaining and how quickly. At the expectation of a return to . not normal, but at least a condition which does not disturb the ones around too much. And certainly the Straight World has failed me once more. And not just me. Inept. Inefficient. Regulated by formulae that don’t work.

So – here I am. Sitting with heater on. Shedding possessions. No idea at all about what happens from here. About where I will go nor what I will do. Not knowing whether or not my body or mind will fail me.

Tonight is pleasant. I have eaten well and talked long and rested  much. I have a book to read and am getting the knack of Netflix.  Good as it gets sometimes. Good as it gets.


A Professor’s Memoir of Life Inside a Ravaged Body – The New Yorker

Crosby, who is a professor of English and Gender, Feminist, and Sexuality studies, and a scholar of the Victorian novel, describes how most accounts of trauma and recovery “answer to the dictates of the realist consensus”: once the writer’s life has been split wide open, the task of such memoirs is to stitch it back together in ways that make it seem deep, complex, self-contained, and goal-oriented. Such books tend to convey uplifting messages, turning the disabled body into an illustration of why readers should make the most of every day or overcome adversities in their own lives; through tales of hope or inspiration, they aim to give value to lives that might otherwise seem damaged beyond repair. (The titles of Christopher Reeve’s memoirs, “Still Me,” and “Nothing is Impossible,” reflect the genre’s prevailing tone.) Crosby, by contrast, resists any impulse to impart lessons, shrugging off the narrative arc that “carries the troubled subject through painful trials to livable accommodations … and all too often sounds the note triumphant.”

Source: A Professor’s Memoir of Life Inside a Ravaged Body – The New Yorker



The Concrete Path is still blocked off for me on my Pony. Its become a symbol of Recovery for me. Today 3 experts were there doing expert consultations and achieving seemingly nothing. There was a bobcat dumping loads of dirt. God knows here or why. Later in the day I rode the Pony around to see whether the Concrete Path was open as yet. Nope. Still blocked off with red and white striped plastic ribbons and little ditches that are just a little too deep for me to cross.

How that relates to recovery, I am not quite sure but its working for me. PATIENCE. And Acceptance whilst doing what I can.

I had Andy the cleaner here this morning after another difficult night. Then John brought me his samples and I like them and think they will suit the Forest. I simply need to design the thingo I want to put on it and then he will burn it and varnish it and we can hang it out in the Forest. I am not yet sure just what I want. Maybe one of Izzy’s old posters would be good.

John has been clean a few months more than me and I have taken the opportunity to speak at depth with him on long term matters.

Didn’t turn the computer on till late afternoon today.


Coping with grief & loss – How to grieve – Grieving process & stages of grief – Tatler

Grief is the natural response to the physical loss of someone we love. ‘Pain is the agent of change, pain is what forces you to adjust to this new reality. And it is also through pain that you heal,’ explains Julia Samuel MBE, a psychotherapist and founder patron of the charity Child Bereavement UK, which helps children who have experienced a bereavement, as well as adults who have lost a child. When we do not allow our grief to surface, when we suppress it, there can be long-term implications for our mental health. ‘If you cut out pain, you also cut out your capacity to feel joy,’ says Julia.

Source: Coping with grief & loss – How to grieve – Grieving process & stages of grief – Tatler